Which You Is In Relationship?

A fun exercise in self exploration is to witness yourself in all of your different relationships. Are you the same person in all of them or do you act differently with different people? Notice if your comfort level changes. Does your behavior change? Are you more quiet or less quiet? Do you censor yourself with some and not with others?

If you experience yourself differently from person to person, it may be that you are putting on a mask, playing a role, or have a defense in place. These are the ways in which we try to protect ourselves. This is not to be judged, just noticed.

If we see this about ourselves it tells us that we are not bringing our authentic self to the relationship. We are not the same person with everybody. It requires a lot of psychic energy and it fragments us to be one way with one person and another way with someone else.

Being authentic means you are you no matter who you are with. The first step in working toward authenticity is to see and acknowledge the different “yous” that you put out there. Bringing consciousness to an issue is always the first step in healing.